perfectionism is just fear wearing a nice outfit


Hey Reader,

This week I had two goals: rest, and show up well for my clients. If you've been following along, I've been on the road a lot. It felt so good to be home.

Steve's back after two weeks away. We're headed to see Zack at college today. Our house is peaceful, and I missed it.

I didn't take any new client calls this week. And a part of me felt guilty about that, like I should double-check that I wasn't being lazy. I told my coach. He laughed at me. My roster is strong right now, and resting was never the wrong call. But fear doesn't need a good reason to show up. It just shows up.

Fear doesn't always look like fear. Sometimes it looks like guilt for resting. Sometimes it looks like a project you never finish.

I got on a coaching call this week with a client who'd been talking about a post she wanted to write. For three weeks.

Most of what looks like procrastination isn't laziness. It's fear.

She said it herself, right there on the call: "I'll start a project and do the first part, but I never bring it all the way around." We talked about why. It wasn't a skills problem. It was fear, wearing a nice outfit. She thought she was being intentional. She was actually stuck.

Here's what got her moving:

  • Wrote the post in ten minutes instead of planning it for three weeks
  • Just used words and her own photo
  • Set a good-enough-to-post bar instead of a ready-to-publish bar
  • Let it be imperfect. Let people see her.
  • Hit send on the thing she'd been sitting on for three weeks

Perfectionism isn't a high standard. It's fear wearing a nice outfit.

If you're putting off something instead of starting it, that's not a planning problem.

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Bring the thing you've been putting off. I've got a few spots left — let's use one of them.

Planning is not starting. Starting is starting.

Amy

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Amy Slenker-Smith, Simply Enough

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